Relationship Rules: The Automatic Lie, “I’m Good.”

Building Quality Connections for Human Success, Well-being, and Health

We’ve all been there. We run into a friend, a colleague, or even a stranger on the street, and they ask that simple question: “How are you doing?” And without missing a beat, we reply with those two words: “I’m good.” But are we really?

Tamika Carlton, a renowned Relationship Coach and advocate for authentic connections, believes that our automatic response of “I’m good” is often nothing more than a lie we tell ourselves and others. 

In her work at Quality Relationships Co., Tamika emphasizes the importance of expressing our truth and being transparent in our interactions. She highlights that building quality connections is not only vital for our personal success but also for our overall well-being and health. 

According to a study by the University of Chicago, only 14% of Americans report being very happy. With quality relationships able to make us happier and healthier, Tamika aims to shatter this statistic by helping people establish and maintain quality connections. 

In today’s fast-paced and digitally connected world, it’s easy to fall into the trap of surface-level interactions. We hide behind social media profiles and carefully curated images, projecting an image of success and happiness. But behind the façade, struggles, insecurities, and vulnerabilities go unaddressed.

Tamika invites us to reflect on this automatic lie and asks whether we should shift our mindset and express more truth in our daily interactions. Rather than defaulting to “I’m good,” she encourages us to embrace vulnerability and authenticity in our conversations. There’s certainly a time and place for everything, but releasing accordingly to the appropriate people can foster genuine connections and create a support network that truly understands and appreciates us.

But why is building quality connections important for our success, well-being, and health? 

As social beings, humans thrive on meaningful relationships. Research has shown that individuals with strong social connections experience lower rates of anxiety, depression, and overall stress. Additionally, these connections can provide a sense of purpose, belonging, and fulfillment in our lives.

Tamika recognizes that breaking free from societal norms and expressing our true selves takes effort and courage. But by embracing vulnerability, we can build deeper relationships based on trust, empathy, and understanding.

Discover the top 3 methods Tamika utilizes to help individuals and couples achieve happiness in platonic and romantic relationships.

“Having a thousand friends or followers doesn’t matter as much as the depth and authenticity of our relationships. It’s always about quality over quantity.” – Tamika Carlton

So, the next time you face that simple question, pause momentarily. Remember, it’s okay not to be “good” always. What matters most is our willingness to dare to connect, embrace authenticity, and share our truth.

Together, we can create a world where genuine human connection thrives, and the automatic lie becomes a thing of the past.